#1 The Most Dangerous Myth About Leadership And Lacking Confidence

Posted Aug 9 2016, 2:44 pm

The most dangerous myth is that leaders are born – that there is a genetic factor to leadership. That’s nonsense; in fact, the opposite is true. Leaders are made rather than born.

– Warren Bennis

I learned many years ago that “people are far greater than any job they ever get to do.” That goes for everyone in this world.

The #1 reason that a person isn’t successful in life and doesn’t achieve or surpass their goals/expectations or fulfill their potential is that they’ve never had anyone in their life (parents, teachers, coachs, mentors or supervisors) who pushed, challenged and believed in them. There was no one to inspire, praise, set goals with target dates, action steps and timely follow-up. There was no one  who recognized effort and rewarded results. There was no one that held you accountable.

Regardless of the setbacks in your life, no matter how low you are feeling or how discouraged you are all is not lost. Low self- esteem and a total lack of confidence can be overcome by acknowledging and believing that you are greater than any job you will ever get to do. You may not have experienced success in any job or anything you’ve done in your life. You may be unemployed and have been looking for a job for a year or more. You may be considering giving up. You may be doubting your self- worth.

Don’t give up! The problem isn’t you. Remember, “you are far greater than any job you’ll ever get to do.”

When you are interviewing, regardless of the position you are interviewing for; you need to make a strong statement that you want to work with, be trained by and supervised by someone who will bring out the best in you. Share with your interviewer your belief that “everyone has it in them to be greater than any job they ever get to do,” but everyone needs a “coach” who knows how to develop people to fulfill their potential. You want to be working with and trained by that person.

Believe me, no one else being interviewed will talk about this and your interviewer will be very impressed by your insight and desire to succeed. The above will go a long way in convincing the interviewer that you are the right person for the job compared to everyone else who they interviewed.

If, for whatever reason, that isn’t possible in the beginning then ask them to identify the person or persons who are doing an outstanding job in your department or the business. As much as you can you should observe that person/s and identify all the things they do and their behavior that makes them an outstanding employee in management’s eyes. Then try, as best as you can, to duplicate what you’ve learned from them.

If you make your desire to be trained by and working with the best employee/s, it will eventually happen and the best of you will emerge. You will be on your way to accomplishing anything you set your mind to.

Ken Rubin is the founder of Interviewing To Win. “I’ve always believed that people are far greater than any job they ever get to do.” Through my interview seminars and one on one role playing sessions, I will bring out the very best in my clients.

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